About Eileen
Ph.D., Psy.D., MFT
Psychoanalyst, author, and creator of The Parenting Process. Eileen’s work is grounded in more than 55 years of clinical experience with children, parents, families, couples, and adults.
About Eileen
Ph.D., Psy.D., MFT
Psychoanalyst, author, and creator of The Parenting Process. Eileen’s work is grounded in more than 55 years of clinical experience with children, parents, families, couples, and adults.
About Eileen
Ph.D., Psy.D., MFT
Psychoanalyst, author, and creator of The Parenting Process. Eileen’s work is grounded in more than 55 years of clinical experience with children, parents, families, couples, and adults.
A career spent paying close attention
Eileen Paris has spent more than 55 years listening to how people make meaning from their experiences, how early patterns continue to shape adult life, and how relationships can become places of repair.
Her work began with children and families and developed into a lifelong study of human development, psychoanalysis, parenting, trauma, and the emotional life of relationships.
Across her clinical work, writing, and teaching, one question has remained central: how do people come to understand themselves clearly enough to change?
55 Years Experience
Working with children, parents, families, couples, and adults.
Faculty and presenter
Including Cedars-Sinai, Antioch University, Esalen, and IAPSP.
Published Author
Author of “I’ll Never Do To My Kids What My Parents Did To Me!”
A career spent paying close attention
Eileen Paris has spent more than 55 years listening to how people make meaning from their experiences, how early patterns continue to shape adult life, and how relationships can become places of repair.
Her work began with children and families and developed into a lifelong study of human development, psychoanalysis, parenting, trauma, and the emotional life of relationships.
Across her clinical work, writing, and teaching, one question has remained central: how do people come to understand themselves clearly enough to change?
55 Years Experience
Working with children, parents, families, couples, and adults.
Faculty and presenter
Including Cedars-Sinai, Antioch University, Esalen, and IAPSP.
Published Author
Author of “I’ll Never Do To My Kids What My Parents Did To Me!”
A career spent paying close attention
Eileen Paris has spent more than 55 years listening to how people make meaning from their experiences, how early patterns continue to shape adult life, and how relationships can become places of repair.
Her work began with children and families and developed into a lifelong study of human development, psychoanalysis, parenting, trauma, and the emotional life of relationships.
Across her clinical work, writing, and teaching, one question has remained central: how do people come to understand themselves clearly enough to change?
55 Years Experience
Working with children, parents, families, couples, and adults.
Faculty and presenter
Including Cedars-Sinai, Antioch University, Esalen, and IAPSP.
Published Author
Author of “I’ll Never Do To My Kids What My Parents Did To Me!”
The throughline of the work
Eileen’s career has moved through many settings, but the central concern has stayed consistent: how early experience shapes the way people relate, protect themselves, parent, grieve, and change.
Children and families
Eileen began her work with young children and families, including teaching preschool at the Midtown School in Los Angeles. That early experience shaped her lifelong interest in development, attachment, communication, and the emotional world of children.
Communication and meaning
Her work expanded into communication skills and family relationships, with a growing focus on what people are trying to express beneath the surface of words, behavior, and conflict.
Clinical training and psychoanalysis
Eileen went on to become a licensed marriage and family therapist, earned a Ph.D. in human development, and later completed a Psy.D. in psychoanalysis. Each stage deepened her understanding of how people organize experience and how old meanings continue to shape the present.
The Parenting Process
Out of this work, Eileen developed The Parenting Process, a framework that helps parents recognize their own tender spots, regulate themselves, and respond to their children from the present rather than from unresolved history.
The throughline of the work
Eileen’s career has moved through many settings, but the central concern has stayed consistent: how early experience shapes the way people relate, protect themselves, parent, grieve, and change.
Children and families
Eileen began her work with young children and families, including teaching preschool at the Midtown School in Los Angeles. That early experience shaped her lifelong interest in development, attachment, communication, and the emotional world of children.
Communication and meaning
Her work expanded into communication skills and family relationships, with a growing focus on what people are trying to express beneath the surface of words, behavior, and conflict.
Clinical training and psychoanalysis
Eileen went on to become a licensed marriage and family therapist, earned a Ph.D. in human development, and later completed a Psy.D. in psychoanalysis. Each stage deepened her understanding of how people organize experience and how old meanings continue to shape the present.
The Parenting Process
Out of this work, Eileen developed The Parenting Process, a framework that helps parents recognize their own tender spots, regulate themselves, and respond to their children from the present rather than from unresolved history.
The throughline of the work
Eileen’s career has moved through many settings, but the central concern has stayed consistent: how early experience shapes the way people relate, protect themselves, parent, grieve, and change.
Children and families
Eileen began her work with young children and families, including teaching preschool at the Midtown School in Los Angeles. That early experience shaped her lifelong interest in development, attachment, communication, and the emotional world of children.
Communication and meaning
Her work expanded into communication skills and family relationships, with a growing focus on what people are trying to express beneath the surface of words, behavior, and conflict.
Clinical training and psychoanalysis
Eileen went on to become a licensed marriage and family therapist, earned a Ph.D. in human development, and later completed a Psy.D. in psychoanalysis. Each stage deepened her understanding of how people organize experience and how old meanings continue to shape the present.
The Parenting Process
Out of this work, Eileen developed The Parenting Process, a framework that helps parents recognize their own tender spots, regulate themselves, and respond to their children from the present rather than from unresolved history.
How Eileen works
Eileen’s clinical work is psychoanalytic, relational, and collaborative.
She listens for meaning: not only what happened, but what it came to mean, how that meaning shaped the person, and how it may still be organizing present relationships. Her work is not advice-driven. It is an effort to understand the emotional patterns beneath the surface, including the grief, longing, fear, and hope that may not yet have had room to be spoken.
How Eileen works
Eileen’s clinical work is psychoanalytic, relational, and collaborative.
She listens for meaning: not only what happened, but what it came to mean, how that meaning shaped the person, and how it may still be organizing present relationships. Her work is not advice-driven. It is an effort to understand the emotional patterns beneath the surface, including the grief, longing, fear, and hope that may not yet have had room to be spoken.
How Eileen works
Eileen’s clinical work is psychoanalytic, relational, and collaborative.
She listens for meaning: not only what happened, but what it came to mean, how that meaning shaped the person, and how it may still be organizing present relationships. Her work is not advice-driven. It is an effort to understand the emotional patterns beneath the surface, including the grief, longing, fear, and hope that may not yet have had room to be spoken.
Selected writing, teaching, and presentations
Books
“I’ll Never Do To My Kids What My Parents Did To Me!”
Warner Books, 1994
A book for parents who want to understand how inherited family patterns can be recognized and interrupted.
Published papers
“Interrupting Trauma and Advancing Development”
Clinical Social Work Journal, 2013
A clinical paper on trauma, development, and the possibility of interrupting painful patterns across generations.
Presentations and teaching
IAPSP, Esalen, Echo Parenting, CSUN, Maternal Mental Health Now, and international workshops in Zurich, Calgary, and British Columbia.
Podcasts
Fragmented with Dr. Eileen Paris
A conversation on Eileen’s clinical thinking, The Parenting Process, and the emotional life of parents and children.
Selected writing, teaching, and presentations
Books
“I’ll Never Do To My Kids What My Parents Did To Me!”
Warner Books, 1994
A book for parents who want to understand how inherited family patterns can be recognized and interrupted.
Published papers
“Interrupting Trauma and Advancing Development”
Clinical Social Work Journal, 2013
A clinical paper on trauma, development, and the possibility of interrupting painful patterns across generations.
Presentations and teaching
IAPSP, Esalen, Echo Parenting, CSUN, Maternal Mental Health Now, and international workshops in Zurich, Calgary, and British Columbia.
Podcasts
Fragmented with Dr. Eileen Paris
A conversation on Eileen’s clinical thinking, The Parenting Process, and the emotional life of parents and children.
Selected writing, teaching, and presentations
Books
“I’ll Never Do To My Kids What My Parents Did To Me!”
Warner Books, 1994
A book for parents who want to understand how inherited family patterns can be recognized and interrupted.
Published papers
“Interrupting Trauma and Advancing Development”
Clinical Social Work Journal, 2013
A clinical paper on trauma, development, and the possibility of interrupting painful patterns across generations.
Presentations and teaching
IAPSP, Esalen, Echo Parenting, CSUN, Maternal Mental Health Now, and international workshops in Zurich, Calgary, and British Columbia.
Podcasts
Fragmented with Dr. Eileen Paris
A conversation on Eileen’s clinical thinking, The Parenting Process, and the emotional life of parents and children.
Featured Podcast
Episode description: Zeus is joined by Dr. Eileen Paris. She is a marriage, family, and child counselor who has been working with children and families for over 40 years. She is a Supervising and Training Analyst at the Institute of Contemporary Psychoanalysis, and an Infant Mental Health Specialist. She is in private practice. In addition, she has developed a model of parent education, the Parenting Process, and co-authored, “I’ll Never Do To My Kids What My Parents Did to Me! A Guide to Conscious Parenting”
Join us as we discuss the power in co-parenting, ways we unknowingly pass our traumas onto our children, and how we can set a solid foundation for our family lives at home!
Featured Podcast
Episode description: Zeus is joined by Dr. Eileen Paris. She is a marriage, family, and child counselor who has been working with children and families for over 40 years. She is a Supervising and Training Analyst at the Institute of Contemporary Psychoanalysis, and an Infant Mental Health Specialist. She is in private practice. In addition, she has developed a model of parent education, the Parenting Process, and co-authored, “I’ll Never Do To My Kids What My Parents Did to Me! A Guide to Conscious Parenting”
Join us as we discuss the power in co-parenting, ways we unknowingly pass our traumas onto our children, and how we can set a solid foundation for our family lives at home!
Featured Podcast
Episode description: Zeus is joined by Dr. Eileen Paris. She is a marriage, family, and child counselor who has been working with children and families for over 40 years. She is a Supervising and Training Analyst at the Institute of Contemporary Psychoanalysis, and an Infant Mental Health Specialist. She is in private practice. In addition, she has developed a model of parent education, the Parenting Process, and co-authored, “I’ll Never Do To My Kids What My Parents Did to Me! A Guide to Conscious Parenting”
Join us as we discuss the power in co-parenting, ways we unknowingly pass our traumas onto our children, and how we can set a solid foundation for our family lives at home!
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